Comment Commentary: June 12, 2011

Hey, hey. Whadya say?

These are your comments. Keep ’em coming.

IN RESPONSE TO… Let’s Be Frank… Married Woman #2, May 25, 2011
“Jenn says: What an inspiring love story. It is not all pretty but what is? That is what makes it beautiful.”
I agree. I’ve known this woman for many years, and I love her to pieces. She’s always been a role model for me, whether she knows it or not.

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IN RESPONSE TO… The Melting Spoon (Or, A Chocolate Poop Kind of Day), June 2, 2011
“Jenn says: I glad you could see the beauty even in a cloudy day. I myself like couldy days, they bring about expectancy. You never know what my happen, it may rain or just get blown away. Not knowing is a gift in itself, just think of all the things you don’t know and you don’t stress over them. Be like a duck and let it roll off your back.”
I love happy endings. I search for them, and find them, often.

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IN RESPONSE TO… “Matchmaker, Matchmaker”, June 3, 2011
“Jenn says: You can change the names to yours and Gods. Maybe you thinking of that song for days was His way of asking if your sure you want a guy in your life? Make sure your prepared.”
I like that idea! And yes, I’m sure. I just don’t think it’s time yet. This journey has just begun.

“Cris says: When I prayed for God to bring me a husband, I certainly didn’t expect it to be a 34 year old (shaved head)nuclear reactor operator who lives in MIssouri with his four daughters. I was thinking an early 40′s (dark haired) bond trader from Oregon, perhaps? But, on all the essentials-shared faith, values, beliefs, needs and Love Languages, God matched me with Wes. Maybe that bond trader is still available..? Thanks for sharing your journey.”
You’re welcome. Good luck on your own journey.

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IN RESPONSE TO… Pray Without Ceasing, June 4, 2011
“Jenn says: Writing down what you would like and praying for it is great, just make sure you let God have the final say in the matter.”
You should know me better than that by now. I’m not at all telling God how to do things. I’m willing to edit the list abundantly if I need to. But I find it interesting that the lists were very similar considering they were written practically decades apart. God is still leading. And that makes me happiest of all.

“Kate Evans says: We can ask for what we think is right for us but God will always give us what He knows is right for us. All I ask is that next time, I find someone who is truly understanding of me.”
Kate, that’s a perfect prayer. I will pray this for you, my friend!

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IN RESPONSE TO… Comment Commentary: June 6, 2011
“Jenn says: Just know I am always proud of the woman you are. I am always up for an adventure. As far as getting tounge- tied, don’t worry about it. If the guy is really the one he will find it adorable. I did/do it all the time. When I first started dating my husband I once told him “I’m so stuffed I could eat a pig” Nice, uh?”
Thank you Jenn. As silly as it sounds, that’s kind of inspiring. 😉

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IN RESPONSE TO… Ten Places to Travel To [Main Page, Tab Under ‘Tenfold’]
“Kate Evans says: No Toronto? There are way too many places I want to see for me to make a list of only ten. Right now my list is pretty much anywhere that’s not Connecticut, I need to get out and see something new.”
I actually thought of putting Canada on the list, but I was afraid of being stalker-ish again. I could change NYC to “NYC and Surrounding Area” to include New England and Toronto. We could meet! 😉

“Jenn says: I would switch Irland for Hawaii.”
I’m starting to think that I limit myself far too often.

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IN RESPONSE TO… Monday Match-Up Report, June 6, 2011
“Jenn says:
O.k. So guy 1 was a little creepy, but maybe guy 2 really just speaks that way to every one. Like saying hi pal or buddy. I know a lot of people that do this, people that I just met will has hon or sweetie. Not everyone will be thinking the same way you do in regards to endearment. Guy 3, well he may not have a lot of self-confidence or you could look at it this way he is not very prideful. Guy 4 maybe a little forward but at least you know he wouldn’t beat around the bush. Just thought I would give you the positives on these people. Good luck in Vegas.”
I realize I’m a bit more old-fashioned, but I really do want my man to call me honey, and no one else. Because when he says it, I want him to mean it.

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IN RESPONSE TO… Question: Love v. Romance [Main Page, Tab Under “Let’s Talk”]
“Jenn says: Romance is what two people do, where as love is what keeps those same to people together when there is no romance. Romance: Moonlit walks, picnics, date nights. Love: Holding each other even though your mad, working through conflict, taking care of a sick spouse. The two can work together but love does not NEED romance. Just my opinion.”
I agree. 🙂

“Cris says: Ok, I will make this short and sweet: Romance is when a man acts like the man of your dreams. Love is when he acts like the man of your prayers.”
Thanks, Cris. I like this.

What Happens in Vegas (and surrounding areas)… [Part One]

Friday, June 10, 2011

The anticipation of this weekend kept me up until one o’clock this morning. That, and the busyness of preparing the perfect drive: Packing. Overpacking. Repacking. Making a playlist. Reviewing directions. Home mani-pedi.

I love planning things. I’m an over-planner. I blame it on being a writer. I’m all about the little details. If I could ever have another successful career, it would be a Party Planner. I love putting the pieces together. Finding this, coordinating that. I’m a control freak when it comes to events.

Which is why, 20 minutes into my arrival, my brother took me aside and told me to just breathe. “It’s okay,” he said. “A lack of planning doesn’t mean chaos.” I chose to take him at his word. After all, this is his town. He knows better than me what works and what doesn’t.

And so far it’s been good to just go with the flow. I’ve literally been sitting in the backseat today, and I’ve been comfortable with it. It’s a breath of fresh air to let someone else navigate and just be along for the ride.

So far today we ate lunch at a $5 casino buffet. I had some wonderful manicotti followed by a decent baklava, among other delicious tastes. Tomorrow I might be more daring and actually try sushi.

After lunch we drove out to the Hoover Dam. We walked the new Memorial Bridge, 800 feet above water level. It didn’t seem terribly high, but the winds blew strong enough to shake things a little and destabilize my balance. I had to trust that the engineers and planners knew more than me; and hundreds, if not thousands of pedestrians, have remained safe and rely on that same trust. It was an interesting self-experiment as I walked the bridge and saw the Dam from a perspective I’d not known before today. It was majestic, massive, and humbling. Had I let my fears keep me from the short walk, I would have missed this amazing structural adventure.

I’m sensing today’s theme is what Jenn and other friends are encouraging me to do: Let go of my control issues. Trust others. Relax. Go with the flow. For the last eight hours I’ve done just that. And it feels good. Really good.

One of the caveats of this weekend is that each of us has a few ideas of what we would like to do, but there’s nothing on schedule. So right now, instead of going tourist-crazy and overloading on neon signs and clinking machines; instead of pounding the pavement in a mad crush of people, we’re sitting in my brother’s living room, enjoying his huge flatscreen and surround sound. Watching “2012”. I like this movie. I love John Cusack.

Later, instead of driving the Strip, we’re having grilled steak and corn on the cob. Not quite the Vegas experience I usually envision. But that’s okay. Because for today, I’m letting go of my plans, my ideas of what it should be, and accepting it for what it is: great family time. Which was our intent from the beginning.