BETTER: Blogging More or Less

It’s been over a month ~ a month! ~ since I last posted. And before that, it was quite a while too. That’s a far cry from the NaBloPoMo I used to do, posting every day for nearly two years.

I can’t believe we’re at the end of March, and I’ve so few posts this year.

But rest assured, I’m still writing!

Desk and chair set with old typewriter

My “new” workspace ~ a real desk!

The desk, chair and glider behind the desk are all birthday gifts from my mother. We found the glider and desk at our local Salvation Army. I can’t believe how inexpensive they were to begin with, and we happened to be there on a day when everything was 50% off. I guess the writing gods were smiling that day! The two-tone desk chair was picked up at a discount furniture store. Since it was one of only two left and slightly dinged, yup, you got it . . . 20% off. I know, right?!

The piece de resistance, however, is this wonderfully personal gift from Dot.

Ernest Hemingway Pen Box

Ernest Hemingway Pen Box

Of course, prior to these wonderful investments in my future, Megan and I have been busily adding to The Grenalia Chronicles. We locked up the prologue and Chapter One, and added not less than twenty pages of new material for the next few chapters. I also drafted the next two sections of NOLA, as well as started indexing the two compilations I’m working on.

This Girl is very busy.

I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again: I’m healthiest when I write. The last few months were painful and distracting. Being unable to write ~ really write ~ added insult to injury. But trudge through the muck, I did. Look down into the dark holes and find the glimmer light, I did. Come through it, get through it, thrive because of it . . . I have, I did, I am.

This Girl is empowered.

So while I may not have blogged much in 2014, the words I write ~ whether for the blog, the books, or the grocery list ~ are all sincere. Intentional. And valuable.

I cannot promise you I’ll post every day. But I can promise you, when I do post, it will be worth it.

Here’s to you. Thanks for reading.

And Frankly, My Dear… that’s all she wrote!

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Better in 2014: Blogging

I realize the title of this post may seem oxymoronic, given that my posts are few and far between lately. This is true, but it’s not true.

I’m not blogging as often as I used to, which means the posts I do write had better be of better quality. Notice the repetitive word, better? Flash back to my Word of the Year post. This is the year when I take what I already have and make it better.

Today’s post is going to be the start of a series on blogging. I’ve been honored to have several people ask for my advice in starting their own blog. There’s a plethora of information I can give, so before we both jump into the deep end, I’d like to ask: what are you asking me?

Check!

Check!

For today’s post, I’m asking you to let me know your questions, ideas, thoughts, concerns… What kind of blog are you looking to start? What is its purpose? Is it to educate, share a business, vent, or just be creative?

Who will your audience be? Are you hoping to make money through your blog? Do you want to save the world or entertain your corner of it?

Do you have formatting and start-up questions? Are you interested in the behind-the-scenes work or just the up-front writing?

I’m more than willing to share the journey I’m going through with Frankly, My Dear… but I’d also love to know the journeys you plan to take.

Blank Pages are the World's Canvas

Blank Pages are the World’s Canvas

So here’s your chance. What are your questions about blogging? Leave them in the comments and I’ll curate them together for a series on building a better blog.

Remember: There’s no such thing as a dumb question. When I started blogging, I found that many others had the same questions I did. The research can be tiring and seemingly endless. I’d like to help. Tell me your questions. I’ll find you the answers. Or at least do my best.

And Frankly, My Dear… that’s all she wrote!

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2014: BETTER.

BETTER! 2014: January 1: do. be. dream. feel. live. BETTER.

BETTER! 2014

Let’s be real: 2013 was a heart breaker, wasn’t it?

Everyone ~ and I mean everyone ~ has a story of hardship within the last 365 days. At the same time, everyone is looking forward to the New Year.

There’s always a sense of fresh. New. Hope. Promise. Something Good.

Am I right? As you’re reading this, aren’t you nodding and mentally going over your resolutions and new to-do’s? Don’t you feel like whatever happened in 2013, today begins the chance to change? A completely blank slate, to shape it however you want it to be.

Sitting around acting like the world is not going to help you, is not going to help you. Get up and do something.

Sitting Around

Yeah. Me, too.

The last two years I started the New Year with a theme. Two years ago I dared to be an awesome orange. Last year I set boundaries.

Today, I’m starting to be better.

Day Planner. January 1, 2014. Do. Be. Dream. Live. Feel. BETTER.

2014: BETTER.

I have a brain bucket full of resolutions and ideas and goals and insights and dreams and warnings and… you get the picture.

I wrote out began my list. Things I want to accomplish/achieve/acquire in 2014:

  • Get back to meal planning.
  • Read a heck of a lot more.
  • Do the Popover Project that I never did last year.
  • Finish the interior improvements at Bedford Manor.
  • Write. Write. Oh, and write.
  • More Mother-Daughter Dates with my daughter.
  • More Mother-Daughter Dates with my mother.
  • Reach out of my comfort zone more. To people. To locations. To experiences.
  • Create new recipes. And lots of them.
  • Spend more time in my kitchen creating, less time cleaning.
  • Redo the outdoor sprinkler system.
  • Buy a reciprocal saw.
  • Plant an olive tree.
  • Craft more.
  • Plant rose bushes.
  • Buy fence slats.
  • Buy many mason jars. In many sizes. For many reasons.
  • Visit the Midwest.
  • Get a passport.
  • Visit Canada.
  • Keep money in my savings account.

And so much more.

And as I looked at my incomplete list, I began to feel… overwhelmed.

This is the part where I channeled my mother’s mantra: “Simplify!” And, in case I didn’t hear her the first ten guzillion times: SIMPLIFY! (Stop yelling, Mom. I get it!)

My list is too long. It’s too exhausting. And honestly, too stressful. I can’t possibly achieve everything on that list.

And I’m not really sure I want to.

Sure, it looks good to put out there all these great goals. Oh, look at Molly’s Resolutions. This Girl’s got gumption! She’s a go-getter for sure! Okay. Quit laughing.

So this year, it’s not about New.

It’s about BETTER.

Taking what I already have, and working with it. Doing more, not different. Fixing, not forgetting. Stop adding to my plate and just enjoy what’s already there.

My goals for 2014 are the same no matter what day of the year it is: Be Better.

Do.
Be.
Dream.
Feel.
Live.

BETTER.

I’ll continue with the meal planning and the budgeting and the home improvements and the writing. Those are not new. If I gain a reciprocal saw and a passport, I’ll be happy. But if I don’t, the world doesn’t end.

I’ll make my life better because I’ll be better for the people in my life. I’ll surround myself with people who get it, who get me. Who encourage me and strengthen me and love me and support me. I’ll reach out more when I need them. And I’ll reach out to them when they’re not reaching out to me. I’ll make girl dates with Pam and Megan and Lisa and Nancy and let them know how they affect me and challenge me to be better.

I’ll let my family know I’m proud of them. For all they do. I’ll make the efforts to let them know I love them. No matter what. Just because they are who they are. And that’s good enough for me. They are always striving to be better, and I appreciate each and every one of them. All the time. And I’ll be better at telling them so.

Reading is something I do but not enough. Two years ago, I challenged myself to read a book every ten days. What was I thinking? In 2014, my goal is 12 books. Total. That’s right. Just one book each month. If I read more than that I’ll count it as a bonus. 12 books in one year is 10 more than I’ve read since last Christmas.

I’ll work on my current writing projects without starting new ones. I’ll finish NOLA and Amara’s Light and Broken Girl. I’ll record episodes of Five Minute Faith. I’ll do whatever I can to be the Writer I say I am.

I’m going to be a better version of myself and make my world a better place.

Not new. Not different.

But fresh. Hopeful. Good.

And definitely

BETTER.

Do Something. Because something is better than nothing.

Do Something

What’s your word for 2014?

And Frankly, My Dear… that’s all she wrote!

You may also enjoy reading:
Following Fabian
You can’t see where you’re going if you’re always looking behind.
The Friday Five – STORIES
Amara’s Light: Book One of the Grenalia Chronicles
Doing Something. Good.

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TGIF: The TidBit Post

TGIF at Frankly, My Dear... old book with orange binding, and a feather quill in an ink bottle.

TGIF

I apologize. This week has zoomed by with such tornado force that I neglected to blog for an entire seven days. Seven days! That’s like… a year at Catford Manor, yah? Maybe not… but it certainly felt like it. I don’t know if you missed reading, but I certainly missed writing.

I’m happy to say the reasons for my Blogosphere Silence are good reasons. Strong reasons. And beautifully foundational reasons. And I (95%) don’t feel guilty about this time otherwise well spent. The other 5% is that control-freak-oh-my-gosh-I’m-gonna-die-if-I-don’t-write-this-out attitude that infiltrates every fiber of my being, every hour of every day.

I know the photos in this post are ones previously viewed on Frankly, My Dear… rest assured this isn’t a rerun. Rather more of an affirmation.

The first is the Theme for this year.

Boundaries. Green word art.

Expand Your Horizons

Boundaries. Some are meant to keep us in. Others are meant to be broadened. Whenever I think of Boundaries, I think of Louis L’Amour and the Wild West. If you’ve been around the Blog for any length of time you’ll understand my grand affinity for Louis and his writings. I even named last year’s nutcracker after him!

Cowboy rocking nutcracker and Louis L'Amour book.

Louis & Louis

This is appropriate this week as I have once again picked up the book and have been reading. You would think, as a writer, I would read just as prolifically. While I desire to, I just haven’t made the time. Until recently. And it excites me. Living in some of the areas that he wrote about, still seeing the lavender painted mountains at sunset and still breathing the thousand year old dust in the wind, these things bring to me a sense of belonging and hope and determination. I feel an inner affinity with the Cowboy and his Tales.

I’ve expanded boundaries the last few weeks with New Inklings Press. I’ve determined even more to grow my writing and company and baby step by baby step, it’s coming along. I’ve changed banks to one that’s more friendly to the Little People, while offering Big Business perks. It’s a win-win situation and has been a breath of fresh air.

Monday I was abundantly blessed to spend time with a dear friend I haven’t seen in two years. One of my closest friends, my confidante. The one I can call and cry without words to. Or send a smiley face text to. We have the kind of friendship that time can’t whither, and I’m exceptionally thankful. We needed to see each other again. To look each other in the eye and know we were being honest. To hear what each one had to say. And through our wonderful albeit too short discourse, we reminded each other of the intimate power of prayer. What an absolute treasure to hear him tell me I’m doing things right. That he’s proud of my writings, proud to call me friend. Just as I’m proud to have his trust and friendship.

He gave me a new nudge with my writing. A step out of the shadows. And those boundaries were opened as I took a flying leap into the air, not sure where (or how) I’d land, and I placed The Unemployment Cookbook on sale at Amazon. [It’s on sale for only $12 through Saturday!] Which reminds me: would y’all mind doing me a favor? I need reviews to boost my standing at Amazon. Could you take three minutes out of your time and click here to offer your word gems for such purpose? That’s a fancy way of saying, could ya help with some free word-of-mouth advertising and tell others what you think of the Cookbook? Huge thanks for Janice and Jaye for already jumping on board this fast moving train!

The Unemployment Cookbook, Second Edition

The Unemployment Cookbook, Second Edition

I came to a revelation of why the more I get into a project, the slower it goes. I’m constantly editing! I read, add, edit, then read again. And the more I add, the more there is to read and edit and read again. My newly adopted habit now is to just write. Write at least 1,500 creative words each day, with at least half that for my New Orleans -based story. If I can keep writing, I will. If I need a break, that’s when I can review. Lightly edit. And when I find myself picking a paragraph to its death, it’s time to stop. Once the story is complete and a rough draft is printed, then I (and a few trusted friends) will review. And re-edit. But for now I need to be all about the writing.

As a reminder, I still keep this as my wallpaper on both my iPhone and laptop:

A photo collage of online resources to inspire me while writing my story set in New Orleans, Louisiana.

NOLA Inspiration

Yeah. I’m all about the N’Awlins these days. After weeks of calling it “The Untitled Molly Jo NOLA Project” or just “my NOLA story” for short, I’ve realized it’s already named itself. NOLA. It’s absolutely perfect. Here’s a thought from the protagonist:

“I often wondered if my parents knew the hardships they were thrusting upon me when they named me Penny. How much better life may have turned out if they’d instead named me something like “Ruby” or “Goldie”?”

 

My Darling Dot finally jumped on the YouTube bandwagon. She and her friends have been having fun making videos. She then edits them on her laptop in a manner that makes me jealous. She definitely has an eye for behind-the-lens action. She thinks she wants to be a nurse. I think she should be a photographer. Check out her newest video, making cupcakes for my jewelry party with one of her best friends, Hayley:

I would love to start making videos but I get in my own way. What could I possibly video that y’all would want to watch? Certainly two teenaged girls baking cupcakes is far better than if it were me…

And Frankly, My Dear… that’s all she wrote!

You may also enjoy reading:
TGIF: One
Five Things Friday: Safety in Numbers
My Housing Project: A New Leaf
Word of the Year: 2013
Louis and Max and Me
Why I Write. Every Day.

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My Gift to You: FREE on Kindle – A STUDY ON THE TEN COMMANDMENTS

Stone slab Cover art for A STUDY ON THE TEN COMMANDMENTS by Molly Jo Realy

A Study on the Ten Commandments

A few months ago, I proudly yet humbly debuted A STUDY ON THE TEN COMMANDMENTS as my first eBook. It’s available for Kindle download through Amazon (click here) for only $2.99.

This past week, regardless of topic, my posts have each held the elements of Faith and Prayer.

I have been abundantly blessed by God and those He’s placed around me.

It’s with joy and honor that I’m paying it forward and offering A STUDY ON THE TEN COMMANDMENTS for free on August 8th and 9th.

Just click on the photo above to be taken to the Amazon page where you can download your own copy direct to your Kindle.

Please spread the word and share this with your people. If you already have a copy, please leave a review on the Amazon Product page. If you don’t yet have a copy, now’s a great time to download it.

I pray that He will continue to bless you abundantly.

And Frankly, My Dear… that’s all she wrote!

You may also enjoy reading:
The Penny Parable – Part I
The Penny Parable – Part II
What I Learned on Women’s Retreat (The Big Whammy!)
More or Less: 29 Words

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