What’s Your Writing Style? Creatively Overcoming Writer’s Block

Recently, I was asked what my writing style is. That’s a loaded question! Because it’s not just one question. Those four seemingly innocuous words, “What’s your writing style?” mean so much more than that. More often than not, they’re asked by someone who is trying to find their own style, a new writer who may think there’s a right and wrong way to write.

Asking, “What’s your writing style?” more often than not means, “I’ve heard this and read that. I’m having trouble formulating my thoughts and my story isn’t flowing as well as I’d like. I’m looking for ideas. Can you inspire me?”

People often tell me that I’m gifted with words, and they wish they could be writers. It’s my belief that everyone can be a writer. I agree for some it can be hard, difficult, to see things in a Wordy Way, but it’s not impossible.

So I’d like to devote this post to a few tips to help people get over their writer’s block and inhibitions.

Most people don’t believe they can write, but they can certainly tell stories! I suggest recording yourself when you’re talking with friends. Write a journal. Look for the details in everything you see. Practice.

Don’t worry about grammar and spelling, punctuation and structure. That’s not writing. That’s editing. Don’t confuse the two! Editing in the polish after the fact. Writing is getting it on paper.

Of course, you’re expected to have at least a working vocabulary and basic writing skills. But very rarely is a person a professional writer and editor.

I keep a memo board in my bedroom that I write on to track my progress, list potential ideas, and set deadlines. It’s my “Dream Board”, meaning, if I could accomplish all those things I’d be in Heaven but I know it’s not possible. DO NOT EXPECT YOURSELF TO BE PERFECT.

I always recommend that you write the way you talk. This works great for texting, journaling, and blogging. But what if you have a story to tell that’s set in Victorian England or, say, Middle Earth? I doubt very much they would say, “Pass the remote, I wanna change the channel.”

But it’s a start. If you’re having trouble starting, forget all the details. Forget the structure, the voice, the lingo. Just write out a draft in your own words. After you get the basic idea on paper, you can go back later and fine-tune it, turn the channel changing into a cup of tea in the garden.

If you’re experiencing writer’s block after a few pages, try to change your outlook. Let’s say you’ve got ten pages down and the narrative is from a first-person perspective. And now you’re stuck and don’t know what to do? Change the character! I’m not saying go back and rewrite what you have. But for the next few pages, draft some lines from another character’s point of view. Then go back and figure out how your original character would react.

Some people recommend a detailed outline. Knowing the in’s and out’s, the beginning, middle and end before you actually write it out, can obviously be very helpful. That’s not how I write. Of course I have a basic idea of my storyline; otherwise I don’t really have a story. But I don’t write a complete outline. I keep notes and post-its when I’m writing. Notes can help you keep track of characteristics, lands, personalities, even made-up words you want to use. Sticky notes are great for story-boarding: putting your scenes in order. I like to let the scene write itself and edit it later.

Let’s say I’m writing a book about a bird building a nest. So I start with the bird finding twigs and such. But I get a thought about how the bird eggs will fit (or not) after it’s built. So I make note to revisit that section later. Then I continue writing how the bird collects materials. When I get that one section done; it’s okay to let my wander and play around so then I go to the eggs rolling around and maybe one falling out and being rescued (or not).
Then I put the two scenes together and see how they read. Maybe I need to expound more of the nest size. Maybe I spent too much time on the eggs and not enough on the building. That’s where the editing comes in. WORD OF WARNING: DON’T SPEND YOUR LIFE EDITING. IT WILL NEVER BE YOUR KIND OF PERFECT!

Once your characters develop in your head, you’ll find they take on a life of their own. That Pirate you created two chapters ago will in no uncertain terms tell you he can’t possibly be found knitting a scarf for his grandmother. He’d rather steal it! Are you writing about animals? Have you ever heard a cat moo or a mouse roar? Perhaps you want them to. If that’s your story, they’ll let you. But if not, they won’t. LET YOUR CHARACTERS BE THEMSELVES!

You’ll also find that each character strives for your attention. You’ll be writing about Pirate Jones when the scarf-knitter’s stable boy decides to come into your head. That’s when your notebook comes in handy. Jot down notes and ideas to placate the character creation, and get back to finishing the Pirate’s task. Trust me. In a few minutes, hours, or even days, Stable Boy will still be waiting for you.

When I’m seriously fighting writer’s block with a project I have to make progress on, I throw the linear writing out the window. Chapters 1 through 4 done, and it’s time for Chapter 5? Too bad! I gotta get the second scene of Chapter 17 out of my head first. Sometimes it’s beneficial to take a detour. Writing out a scene that takes place further on in your story can actually help you connect the dots in between.

I often fight against logic when I’m writing fantasy works. Gravity is a given on earth, but not necessarily Middle Earth. High Tea can be an elegant affair, but not quite so if elephants and sloths are in attendance. There are many, many times when I have to make the story do what I want it to, and not try to make sense out of it. In the end, if it reads well and runs together smoothly, you’ll know you did it right. And in the end, you’ll often find that little things you didn’t realize connected, do. When you wrote about the red pen in Chapter Two, you had no idea it would be the magic element that brought Great Aunt Edna’s horse home with saddle bags full of blank pages. But deep inside, your brain knew. And your brain will work with you to connect those dots, and so much more.

Still having trouble? Take a break. Get up. Walk around the yard. Listen to music. Talk to your family, your pets, your plants. Watch a TV show for half an hour. Get refreshed before you return to your work.

If what you’re writing isn’t fiction (essays, biographies, reference manuals), research! Go online. Visit the library. Watch news reports. Make notes of everything, and most importantly verify your sources!

I also highly recommend that you read. Read every day. Read what you want to write. Read the newspaper. Read poetry. Read a recipe. Imagine your characters in the same environment. How would they react? Would a Pirate really visit Middle Earth? Maybe not, but if you wrote 500 words about it, you’ll get some comic relief while still keeping your writing going.

And that is most important of all. Write. Every day. Those of you who have been around me long enough know the stories of how I met Stephen J. Cannell. His advice is exceptional. Click here to read that post, and I urge you to watch the video.

Finally, THIRD MOST IMPORTANT: DON’T JUST “SAVE” YOUR WORK – MAKE A BACKUP COPY!!! If your computer crashes, you’re screwed. If you write longhand, make a photo copy. Or put your notes in a very secure fireproof safe. No joke.
AND DON’T SHARE YOUR WRITINGS WITH JUST ANYONE UNLESS YOU CAN REALLY TRUST THEM. There’s too many word thieves out there!!!

Everyone has a story to tell. Everyone. You shouldn’t be afraid to tell yours.

And Frankly, My Dear… that’s all she wrote!

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Claudia’s Comment

I’ve known Claudia for years. What I didn’t know, until I started blogging last year, is that she also likes to write. Accordingly, she likes to read. And, bonus!, she likes to read my blog.

Recently, she sent me this email:

“Blogging everyday is impressive, and it’s also one of the reasons I enjoy your blog.  I subscribe to a few others, but posts often are few and far between so I lose interest.  I like that yours comes everyday, and the funny thing is that your title alone makes me happy.  I love that you call it “Frankly, my dear…”  You don’t finish the phrase, which is probably a good thing, but I kind of always like that you write what you write and you do this without seemingly caring about our response.  That’s refreshing.  I don’t read your blogs everyday even though they come, but I always skim them to see if I might enjoy reading.  A lot of times I do just skim, but then every now and then you’ll write something that really connects with me.  I guess those random jewels mixed in with all the rest are why I take the time to skim…just in case :)”

When I first started my blog, I did a weekly Comment Commentary; where I’d respond to each and every comment. Sure, that was fine when my comments were one or two per post.

But as the blog grows, the comments increase. I couldn’t keep up with a personal reply to each and every comment (although I really do read them all, and wish I had the time to keep responding!).

When I got this email from Claudia tonight, it just made me feel special. She gets it. She gets what and why I write. She just gets it.

In her short email, she summarized my intent and belief for my blog: “you write what you write and you do this without seemingly caring about our response”. The code word there is “seemingly”. Because I do care. I care that what I write is accepted, promoted, and appreciated. It’s never my intent to offend, but just to offer light hearted daily life stories (and some great recipes!).

It’s a great blend of dreams, imagination, true life, and my observations of all of the above. And it can be work, at times, to make it seem effortless; to not let my current emotions color my posts (lucky you to never seldom hear me rant!) but that’s my job. You’re not a shrink, and I’m not a patient. This isn’t my way of finding healing through vicarious living. This isn’t a narcissistic attempt to gain attention.

It’s just me. Mixing up all the ingredients of life, and sharing them with you.

The comments are just icing on this delicious cake.

Thanks, Claudia.

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New Meaning to Ghost Writing (Journal, 10/19/2010)

by Molly Jo Realy @MollyJoRealy

Okay, I’m not one to go all in about spirits and things. I believe there are supernatural forces, but as a Christian, and a scaredy-cat, I ignore; nay, resist, such topics.

Most of the time.

Just over two weeks ago, I journaled about the death of my mentor.

We weren’t that close. He was someone I respected as a writer and creator. He encouraged and inspired me to continue in my own writing endeavors. Big words for what boils down to: I like what he said and did, and he saw potential in me.

And then he died.

I don’t know what to do with this void. Do I write about my personal loss? What personal loss? It was a peripheral relationship. So why let others in on my tears? Because he told me to. He told me to write. Every day. No matter what. In joy. In pain. On vacation. Write. Every day.

But for a few days of mourning, I stopped.

I guess that didn’t make him happy. I guess I still have potential. Because in the middle of the night, during a rare thunderstorm no less, I received an email from him. Last night. Two and a half weeks after his death.

I’m not joking.

The interesting thing is, it was the very first email he ever sent me. From years ago. I’d asked his advice as a writer, never thinking he’d respond. But he did. And so our writer’s relationship began. I’d had it saved on hard copy. Saved in my email inbox. And suddenly it pops up on my blackberry like a brand new message.

“Molly Jo… I will give you an answer which is the absolute answer. Write every day and write for at least a couple hours. … What you have to do is make writing a very high priority in your life … Writing is like weightlifting. The more you do it, the stronger you’ll get. … That’s the best advice I can give. If you want to be a writer, you gotta write.”

So. Here I am. Still feeling silly about being affected by the loss of someone who was not yet a dear friend. Still wondering what I could possibly have to write about. Thinking of my unfinished projects.

And in the middle of the night, the heavens opened to wash away my clouds; and he reminded me of what’s important. I write because I am a writer.

True story.

“I write for the same reason I breathe. Because if I didn’t, I would die.” ~Isaac Asimov

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