This Economy is Ruining My Social Life

I feel bad for any guy who wants to date a girl in today’s economy. Let’s be real. Almost always, the guy still picks up the tab. Still picks up the girl. Still puts gas in the car. That alone is enough to make him feel the depression.

As for me, yeah. I have a job. But like most people, I’m on a budget. And splurging for the Christian Mingles scene (or any other online social network) cuts too deep into my Starbuck’s wallet. I’m not into local clubs, and even if I could afford it, dining out ~ alone ~ is just too much to ask. It’s like wearing that dang neon and screaming at the top of my lungs at the same time. “PICK ME! PICK ME!”

So here I am, looking for free. I’m such a window shopper. I’m the Breakfast at Tiffany’s Holly Golightly of match.com. I will not commit. At least, not to that. Not yet. Tomorrow I’m getting a haircut and acrylic nails. That’s enough commitment for one week.

There must be a place to go where people mix and mingle. I don’t even need a dating crowd. Just a place to socialize. To meet new people. To say hi, how are you. To smile and be smiled at. And then I remember sub-urban is not the same as urban. *Heavy sigh…*

But I’ll keep my chin up. I’ll stop spending at Starbuck’s and save my money to allow for a new treat now and then. Maybe the new action movie at the local theater on Saturday night. Maybe I’ll be brave and try sushi… I know. I’m laughing at that idea, too… If I could afford the gas, I’d hit the beach or the mountains or even Victoria Gardens. Maybe I could just walk around the Mall, or better yet, stay after church and mingle in the Island and get to know some more people.

Next week, I’ll grab my coffee and croissant, and take a stroll in the morning. A change of scenery will do me good. Who knows who I’ll run into? At the very least, I’ll be in motion. And that’s a start.

Isn’t it?

Monday Match-Up Report! – April 25, 2011

It’s time for the weekly Monday Match-Up Report: the posting where I lay it all out… the match.com men, the Church chums, the PSO’s (or lack thereof).

Ya ready? Here we go!

Match.com: I’ve actually given up on this. The only emails I’ve received all week are the ones begging to spend money to be rejected in a bigger, better way. “Hey, we’re still not looking at your profile, but now you’ve paid money to figure that out. Can you say, SUPER LOSER?!” Yeah. I don’t think so.

ChristianMingle.com: This one has actually peeked my attention. I like that most men seem to be authentic in their faith, and aren’t afraid to say so. I’d have to say, the majority of them don’t play games. I’m even thinking of subscribing to get email access. One guy in particular has sent me winks and smiles and cards… and because I’m cheap (not THAT kind of cheap!), I don’t have access to all of it. But paying the mortgage and putting food on the table is more important, so yet another payday must come and go before I commit financially to any website (*Note to self: investigate paypal donations… it worked for Julie Powell of the Julie/Julia Project).

Man-waves: none that I can recall.

Social activity: Bible study. Food decorating on Saturday with Mom and Hannah. Church (Good Friday @ HDC). Church (Holy Saturday @ HDC). Church (Sunday morning at HCC). Easter lunch at Mom’s. Gas station. Store. Loud music, driving, Starbuck’s. Lots of friends at church, but no outings. I do have a girl date to plan with Wendy, and a Disney date with Jennifer in about three weeks.

Upcoming plans and challenges: Bible study. It’s one of my most favorite gatherings. These people pray like no other, and it’s a safe environment for me to start to open up and be more social. I think maybe on Saturday I’ll actually go and sit in a Starbuck’s instead of driving thru. How can you meet people that way? Hmm… maybe I can invent the Drive-Thru Date… And then church. Maybe this weekend, I’ll smile at a stranger. Maybe.

Or maybe I need a wingman. Wonder what Julie’s doing this Saturday…