This blog started out as a social experiment; my journal as I journeyed into the dating world with the help of my friends.
I quickly learned that there are ways to be social without involving The Hunt, and love is all around, already. I just had to open my eyes and see it.
First of all, I’m not going to find love on a website. I’m much more faceted than their questionnaires can diagnose. The people I’ve interacted with are into short sentences, not long conversations. So after almost three months of rejection a la’ internet, I canceled my ChristianMingle.com profile. Of course, I immediately received an email imploring how valuable I am to their site, and how if I chose to reactivate RIGHT NOW, I could save 50% for the next two months. Wow. Rejection at half-price. Who doesn’t want a deal like that?
Second, and more importantly, love is not an opposite-sex relationship. The opposite-sex relationship is just that. Love is helping a friend, and being helped. Love is my daughter hugging me “just because”, and my mom cooking dinner because she rediscovered an old recipe. Love is phone calls from family and friends. Love is trustworthy friends who don’t care if you can afford going out to lunch or Starbucks. Love is singing off-key at church and not being noticed. Love is acceptance in spite of me being me.
Love is finding worth in myself to be a good hostess and a good friend. To be able to trust those around me to ask for favors, and to reciprocate good will.
Love is so much more than being in love. And it’s been here all the time.
So my blog has changed from being in search of “love” and social interaction, to the telling of tales where it already exists; to exhibiting the excitement of going into the world at large, regardless of who’s there to accept me.
I’m just a writer in the world. And this is just the beginning of the adventure.